Doing Marriage Well

The Art of Noticing: Finding the Good in Your Spouse

In this episode of Doing Marriage Well (Feb 16, 2026), Paul encourages spouses to intentionally look for the good in each other—those small, everyday acts that bless and support your life. He offers concrete examples of helpful behaviours and invites listeners to view their partner with fresh eyes.
When you notice and name these blessings—thank your spouse, praise them to others, and thank God—you protect your marriage from taking kindness for granted and invite more loving actions into your relationship.

More Than a "Service": Reclaiming Sex from a Toxic Culture

Paul reflects on how toxic cultural messages about sex shaped his early thinking and damaged his marriage, and he calls men to repentance and change.
He urges husbands to listen to their wives, reject entitlement and objectification, teach sons to honour women, and seek God’s way for joyful, respectful sex within marriage.

Honouring the "Weaker Vessel"

This episode examines Peter’s instruction about the “weaker vessel” and explains how men’s physical and emotional strength can unintentionally harm women. Paul urges husbands to live with understanding, show honour, and adjust their behaviour to protect and respect their wives, using real-life examples and personal reflection.

The Mud of Culture: Husbands Should Be Part of the Solution

In the February 12, 2026 episode of Doing Marriage Well, Paul uses the image of pulling an 8‑year‑old from muddy boots to illustrate how many women are stuck in the "mud of culture". He explains why simply not being part of the problem isn’t enough—husbands must actively be part of the solution.
Paul urges men to listen, honour, protect, and advocate for women at home and in society: speak up against disrespect, support women’s gifts and callings, and make home a place where women are not second‑class citizens.

Headship as Promotion: Why Your Wife’s Gifts are Your Calling

This episode explains how biblical headship is meant to promote and honour women, not to limit or control them. It highlights innate differences between men and women, affirms the value of women’s distinct gifts, and calls husbands to be advocates who defend and receive their wives’ callings.
Listeners are encouraged to bless their spouse first, protect and promote their wife’s gifts, and ensure marriage reflects mutual support rooted in God’s design.

The "Rebellious" Proverbs 31 Woman?

Paul reexamines Proverbs 31 with humour and clarity, pushing back against common caricatures and mistaken readings that turn the passage into a rigid checklist.
He highlights verses that show the woman's initiative, charity, business sense, and wisdom, arguing the text portrays a partner who makes her husband secure and honoured—offering a framework for doing marriage well rather than a set of rules to follow.

Marriage and Gender: Seeking God’s Truth Outside of the Usual Camps

In this episode Paul speaks primarily to men (inviting women to listen) about marriage and gender, refusing to fit neatly into complementarian or egalitarian labels. He explains his journey from a hard complementarian stance to reexamining Scripture, how that changed his view of women and his treatment of his wife.
Paul urges listeners to think, pray, and examine where their beliefs about husbandly authority come from, asking God to correct any errors so Christian teaching causes less harm and more faithful, loving relationships.

Prioritising Your Wife's Heart This Valentine's Day

Host Paul explains why prioritising your wife’s emotional safety matters more than expecting sex on Valentine’s Day. He urges men to understand how sexual pressure can feel manipulative, to reassure their wives ahead of time that sex isn’t expected, and to accept any intimacy she offers as a gift.
Simple acts of tenderness and a loving, non-sexual presence can honour your wife’s heart and strengthen your marriage—even if nothing sexual happens.

Valentine's Day Sex: Blessing Him Your Way

Paul addresses how expectations around Valentine’s Day sex can create pressure and distance in marriage, and encourages wives to bless their husbands in ways that fit their relationship.
He offers practical, consent-focused suggestions—morning intimacy, a quickie, joining him in the shower, oral, full sex when possible, or giving sex coupons—emphasising connection over obligation and doing what works for both spouses.
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Valentine's Day: Celebrate Your Way

Paul encourages couples to celebrate Valentine’s Day in a way and on a day that fits their relationship and family life instead of feeling bound to February 14. Talk with your spouse about what matters, choose activities you both enjoy, and be flexible about timing.
He offers practical ideas — celebrate earlier or later, try unique experiences, use downloadable Valentine’s coupons for personal gifts, or give busy children the gift of a night off with the grandkids. The emphasis is on sharing a meaningful, personalised celebration.
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