Doing Marriage Well

Embracing Sexual Acknowledgement in Your Marriage

This episode explores how the desire to be seen and acknowledged sexually affects marriages, distinguishing healthy sexual longing from misuse. It explains that sexuality is created by God, and that acknowledging and expressing desire within marriage helps prevent poor choices like inappropriate flirting.Listeners will learn why feeling sexually unseen hurts, how to cultivate eager, engaged intimacy with a spouse, and how honest communication and affirmation can be healing and restore connection.

Why 'Normal' Attention in Marriage Isn't Enough

Paul Byerly explains why the usual level of attention most couples accept isn’t enough and urges spouses to prioritize each other with more time and focus.He encourages honest requests for attention, being ready to give more in return, and warns that doing so may draw odd looks but can create a far stronger, happier marriage.

When Your Spouse Acts Out for Attention

In this episode Paul Byerly explains why partners sometimes seek attention through negative behaviour like yelling, public mistreatment, or flirting, and why that often stems from feeling neglected. He urges listeners not to reinforce bad behaviour, but to consistently give the attention their spouse needs and to examine why they may be withholding it.
If your spouse seems to demand more attention than you think is fair, the episode recommends addressing the underlying issues, changing how you connect, and getting help if necessary to prevent serious harm to the marriage.

When Spouses Use Bad Behaviour to Get Attention

Paul explains that the deepest need in relationships is to be seen and acknowledged, not just respected or valued, and shows how many people—sometimes unconsciously—use negative behaviour to get attention from their spouse.
The episode offers examples of attention-seeking actions, encourages honest self-examination, and urges viewers to replace destructive habits with mature, healthy ways of connecting.

Understanding the Need to Be Valued

Paul shares a personal story of a quick, small argument with his wife that exposed a deeper need to be acknowledged and valued. He reflects on how emotional exhaustion made them more vulnerable, and how honest apology and understanding helped them reconcile.
The episode looks at the human drive for respect and appreciation, practical steps to repair wounds faster, and how faith helps couples recover well after conflict.

Navigating Intimacy with Past Sexual Abuse

This episode explores how prior sexual abuse can disrupt marital intimacy, why professional and faith-based help is often needed, and practical temporary steps couples can use while healing.
Paul shares personal examples, explains common triggers, suggests safe workarounds, and offers hope that with the right support and effort, couples can recover a healthy sexual relationship.
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Biblical Solutions for Fear and Anxiety

In this episode of Doing Marriage Well (September 11, 2025) we explore biblical responses to worry and fear, centering on Matthew 6:31–33 and Philippians 4:6–8.
Practical guidance includes prayer with thanksgiving, choosing wise people to talk with, avoiding fear triggers, thinking on what is true and lovely, seeking therapy or coaching if needed, and a recommended resource.
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Are Lies and Exaggeration Causing You Fear?

Paul Byerly examines how lies, exaggeration, and fear—spread by politicians, media, and the internet—distort our view of the world and even appear in religious circles.
He urges listeners to seek the truth thoughtfully, trust that God is in control, let go of what they cannot change, and focus on serving others and strengthening marriages through prayer and action.
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When The Past Creates Fear Today

Paul explores how fears learned in childhood or picked up from others can resurface in marriage and trigger reactions that don’t match present reality.
He recommends seeking professional help for past abuse or trauma, tracking and understanding fear habits, and having open conversations with your spouse to ask for grace, reminders, and comforting support. Reassure your partner that past-driven reactions are not their fault.
 
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Is Fear Sabotaging Your Marriage?

Fear is a powerful motivator that can protect us, but when it becomes ongoing or unchecked it harms marriage—triggering anxiety, paralysis, anger, or misplaced attacks on a spouse.This episode examines how fear shows up in relationships, where it can come from, and how it damages connection when left unaddressed. Over the week we’ll explore practical ways to recognize and respond to fear so it stops sabotaging your marriage.Paul reminds listeners that fear makes it difficult to do marriage well—and that understanding its sources is the first step toward healing.