Doing Marriage Well

Two Types of Bad Sex That Harm Marriages

This episode explains that regular sex in marriage must also be enjoyable; drawing on 1 Corinthians 7:3, it identifies two damaging patterns: “mercy sex,” where one partner does the minimum, and emotionally empty or mechanical sex, where a spouse fails to create emotional connection. Both reduce desire and harm the relationship.
The solution is not just more sex but a healthier marriage—repairing emotional connection, pursuing one another, and growing intimacy, so sex becomes mutual, desired, and fulfilling.

His Responsibility for the Marriage

In this episode Paul argues that while both spouses share responsibility, men carry a greater obligation in marriage — not control, but sacrificial leadership. He explains that biblical 'headship' has been misunderstood and should mean protecting, praying for, and patiently loving one’s wife even when she does not reciprocate.Paul encourages men that most marriages can improve or be saved if husbands act with responsibility, humility, and perseverance, embracing obligations over rights.

The Secret: Kickstart Your Marriage

Paul explains how choosing to love—accepting quirks, overlooking small faults, and doing kind actions—creates a virtuous cycle that deepens marriage. He urges spouses to act in faith, giving love even before feeling it, to spark real change.This episode offers a simple, practical challenge: start loving through intentional acts and watch your marriage move from poor to good and from good to great.

Transform Your Marriage by Fulfilling What’s Missing

In this episode, Paul explains that the key to a stronger marriage is giving your spouse what they feel is most painfully missing. Whether it's sex, communication, non-sexual physical touch, shared prayer, help at home, emotional connection, or shared adventures, meeting these core needs creates real change.
He offers a short list of common missing elements and encourages couples to be intentional, tweak activities, so both enjoy them, and prioritize the one thing your partner most wants and needs.

Is What Your Spouse Wants 'Within Reason'?

Paul explores what "within reason" means in marriage, urging spouses to give generously while maintaining healthy boundaries. Drawing on Jesus' teaching about forgiveness and going the extra mile, he encourages extraordinary generosity toward the person you love most.The episode outlines valid reasons to refuse requests (financial strain, time limits, harm to self) and prompts honest self-examination for selfishness or resentment. Ultimately, Paul calls couples to sacrificial love, mutual giving, and seeking help when giving becomes one-sided.

Good Sex Isn’t Optional: The Essential Key to a Strong Marriage

This episode explains why a good sex life is essential for a strong marriage and why meeting your spouse's desires matters.
Paul offers a three-step approach: first improve sex for the frustrated spouse (regular and better, not perfect), then work on other marital issues, and finally return to make sex great once the rest is healthier.
He recommends a practical starting plan—sex about three times a week, with intercourse and both partners climaxing at least once weekly, and the other encounters based on what the less-interested spouse is willing to do.
Next week, Paul will discuss legitimate spouse needs and the meaning of 'within reason'. Doing what your spouse genuinely wants, not just what you want, strengthens marriage.
Commit to regular, caring intimacy to help rebuild and maintain a strong marriage.

Wife Gave Up? Win Her Back with Real Change

This episode is for the man trying to save a marriage after his wife has given up. Paul explains that the first step is honest ownership: admit you caused the pain, and accept responsibility rather than making promises she won’t believe.Next, learn what truly matters to your wife — what she wanted you to change and where she felt neglected — and then commit to real, sustained change for yourself, not just to win her back. Paul shares a story of a man who transformed himself and gradually earned his wife’s trust again, emphasizing persistence and patience.

When Your Spouse Finally Tries, You Try Again

This episode addresses spouses who once tried to save their marriage but gave up after being ignored or hurt. Paul speaks directly to the partner who stopped trying, urging them to consider joining renewed efforts while setting fair boundaries and expectations.He cites Romans 12:18, encourages honest communication about past hurts, recommends demanding sustained, visible change for several months, and suggests allowing the other spouse to lead while you follow at a safe distance. The message balances the risk of being hurt with the potential cost of divorce and calls for cautious hope.

Dare to Make Your Marriage Great: A 6-Month Challenge

Host Paul issues a bold six-month dare: commit to doing everything within reason to make your marriage great—give, forgive, and love sacrificially while asking God to help you do more.
Try this for six months, and you’ll either transform your relationship or know you did all you could. Practical, faith-filled steps and a reminder to examine yourself before blaming your spouse.

God Wants More for Your Marriage

Paul opens with an honest rant about how many marriages fall short of God’s design, drawing on his own struggles and the changes he and Lori made to grow together.He urges listeners to stop settling, invest in personal growth, and believe that, with God’s help, a great marriage is possible.