Doing Marriage Well

Feeling Stuck Sexually? Release the Brake!

Paul explains sexual motivation using a gas-and-brake metaphor, focusing on the “brake” — the mental and sometimes physical barriers that block desire, arousal, willingness, or orgasm. He names common brakes like purity culture, guilt, fear, body-shame, confusion, and porn, and shows how they limit sex even after marriage.
The episode offers a clear call to identify and work to release these brakes, and recommends seeking help if you can’t do it alone. See the show notes for resources.
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“Keeping Up” or Speaking Up? How the Fear of Man Hurts Your Marriage

In this episode of Doing Marriage Well (October 30, 2025), Paul explores how the 'fear of man'—worrying about others' opinions—can trap believers, damage marriages, and pull us away from God's calling.
Using Proverbs 29:25, he warns against succumbing to peer pressure, materialism, and moral compromise to fit in, and highlights how this fear can silence truth-telling in relationships and the church.
Paul challenges listeners to prioritize God and spouse over societal approval, encouraging courage to stand with biblical truth even when it costs friendships.
Practical examples—like overspending to keep up appearances, choosing social outings over family time, or tolerating ungodly behaviours—illustrate how approval-seeking harms marriage and faith.
Ultimately, the episode calls Christians to trust the Lord rather than human opinions and to live faithfully, even when it sets them apart.
 

Is Fear Sabotaging Your Marriage?

Fear is a powerful but often unhelpful motivator that can make partners withdraw or become controlling. This episode explains how fear may come from past trauma or constant exposure to bad news and social media, and offers practical steps to respond.
Suggestions include seeking therapy or story work for past-based fear, using present-moment reminders, limiting news and doomscrolling, focusing on uplifting stories, and turning to prayer and gratitude for peace. If fear is overwhelming, get help.
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Marriages Need Godly Motivation

This episode explores how following Jesus reshapes our motivation in marriage, focusing on sacrificial love that seeks God’s approval rather than human praise.Paul shares real-life examples and practical steps—regular fellowship, Bible reading and discussion, helpful resources, and persistent prayer—showing how godly motivation helps marriages survive and thrive.

Your Motivation Drives Your Life, for Good or Bad

In this episode, Paul begins a two-week look at motivation and how it shapes our lives and marriages. He explains why understanding, correcting, and revealing our true motives matters — including how fear, pride, and selfishness can be hidden even from ourselves.
Listeners are encouraged to prayerfully examine their motives by asking questions like: What am I afraid of? What am I trying to prove? Am I protecting something? Honest discovery leads to growth and healthier relationships.

Sex Coaching: Simple Fixes, Big Results

Doing Marriage Well — October 24, 2025: This episode outlines what sex coaching looks like: you name the concern, the coach clarifies it, offers information or suggestions, sets a goal, and the couple goes home to try simple fixes.
Hosts explain common causes of sexual frustration (inadequate education, misinformation, differences in sexual biology) and give practical solutions — communication tools, positions, toys, and basic biology — noting that sex coaching often resolves sexual problems quickly and can strengthen the marriage overall.
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Marriage Coaching Isn't Just for Crisis

This episode explains why marriage coaching is valuable long before a crisis — shame often keeps couples from seeking help early, making problems worse. Coaching can improve any marriage at any stage, from newlyweds to retirees.
Host Paul highlights a once-a-year marital checkup offered by Aldridge Ministries as a simple, proactive way to spot issues, set goals, and strengthen your relationship.
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Unlock A Better Marriage with an Objective Coach’s Help

An objective marriage coach helps couples spot blind spots, reduce defensiveness, and find common ground by providing a safe, neutral place to explore hurt, fear, and misunderstandings.Working with coaches—especially a husband-and-wife team—can bring balanced male and female perspectives, prevent flooding or escalation, and help each partner be seen and heard. Doing marriage well looks different for every couple.

Transform Your Marriage with Coaching

Paul explains how marriage coaching differs from therapy and counselling, comparing a coach to an athletic coach who knows the game and helps couples reach specific relationship goals. He highlights coaching’s focus on goals, present-and-future solutions, practical skills, partnership with the coach, and action-oriented homework.
Paul and Lori encourage couples (ideally both partners) to consider coaching to improve communication, resolve conflict, strengthen intimacy, and build measurable change between sessions.
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Coaching vs. Therapy: Which Does Your Marriage Need?

Paul explores the difference between marriage coaching and therapy, explaining when each is appropriate. Coaching focuses on growth and practical change and is often more affordable, while therapy treats deep-seated issues like chronic anger and typically requires licensed professionals. Paul and Lori offer coaching to help couples move toward healthier marriages, emphasizing that most couples benefit from coaching, but some situations require therapy.
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