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This blog is not Doing Marriage Right. That would be about doing what someone thinks we should all do. Your marriage is the blending of two unique people, and what works for others may not be good for you. There are things that are nearly universally successful for couples, and things that are universally harmful. For those who follow Jesus, there are some expectations and limits. But honesty, there’s a great deal of wiggle room. We’ve seen happy couples living a wide variety of different ways. If it’s in God’s will, and both husband and wife are good with it, who am I to say anything against it?

The goal here is to help you find what works well for your marriage. I will do that by offering you things to consider. As things are shared, weight them. Try those that seem like they might work for your marriage. If it’s a good fit, great. If not, ditch it, or consider how to modify it to work for your relationship.

Doing Marriage Well means actually doing what builds our marriage relationships.

It’s the doing that makes the difference!

Every Monday I share about a marriage concept and then spend the rest of the week talking about ways to use it in your life and marriage. On Friday, I will apply the concept to sexuality.

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Paul Byerly explains why the usual level of attention most couples accept isn’t enough and urges spouses to prioritize each other with more time and focus.

He encourages honest requests for attention, being ready to give more in return, and warns that doing so may draw odd looks but can create a far stronger, happier marriage.

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Paul Byerly explains why the usual level of attention most couples accept isn’t enough and urges spouses to prioritize each other with more time and focus.

He encourages honest requests for attention, being ready to give more in return, and warns that doing so may draw odd looks but can create a far stronger, happier marriage.