Why Change is Hard: 5 Barriers to a Better Marriage

In this episode Paul outlines five common reasons we resist change in relationships: feeling undeserving, identity tied to current behaviour, fear of failure, fear of loss, and comfort with the status quo.

He shows how these barriers can lead to sabotage, pushback from partners, and long-term stagnation and invites listeners to reflect on which patterns they recognise in themselves or their spouse.

Paul reminds us that doing marriage well looks different for every couple and that awareness, small steps, and encouragement can help overcome these obstacles.