Why Criticism Backfires in Marriage (and What to Say Instead)

In this episode we look at why criticism often backfires in marriage and how to say things that actually help. Criticism can feel like an attack, and a spouse’s history or your tone can make it worse.

Practical tips include starting with appreciation, using I-statements, being specific, avoiding generalisations like "always" or "never", offering solutions, and picking your battles. These steps help create safety and build better communication over time.

One conversation at a time, you can teach your partner that hearing from you is safe and constructive. — Paul